Yep, I have been busted. Doing what you ask? Well, staying up late at night, blogging, facebooking, reading books, even watching t.v., anything but going to bed. I have had this nasty bad habit for as long as I can remember. It has been my solice, my vice, my comfort when life is out of control, unbearable or just plain boring. But boy does it have its side effects.
Not only do I get to bed late, I don’t get enough sleep. Then I start my day off grumpy, irritated and generally still pretty sleepy. I know that a good night’s rest is important but I just hate to go to bed! I think I always have. There is just something inside of me that fights going to bed. I almost feel like it is a punishment to “go to bed.” And it is usually Paul who tells me to go to bed. So . . . I then feel Paul is being “the boss of me” (like I don’t hear that from my children a million times a day) and it makes me resent him.
So, how was I busted? Well, I stayed up late last night, again, and Paul actually came downstairs to see what I was doing up. I knew I was busted, not the normal busted, but the kind of “we need to talk” busted. How did I know?
Well, first of all, Monday I was looking at my favorite Food Nanny’s website for my post. I saw she actually had a blog. So . . I checked it out of course. In it I found the sweetest post. She wrote about the struggles of raising her7 children with a husband who was away with work (pilot) 60% of their marriage. I NEEDED to hear that and hear that this life is OKAY and that I CAN do it, instead of waiting for Paul’s job to be “normal” one day.
She gave three really great tips to raising a family and being happy. They are:
#1 Mom had to get enough sleep to survive! That meant going to bed at the same time the kids went to bed and possibly taking naps while they nap during the day (especially with babies and toddlers!)
#2 Getting up in the morning before the kids wake up for me was critical! I learned quickly that if I was not up and dressed before the kids got up my day was a wreck. I played catch up all day long, I never looked good myself, and things never got done the way I liked. It was chaos! Nothing was better than that hour getting myself ready for the day in peace and getting the wash started, lunches made and breakfast going. I was ready for anything. Even that phone call that came from the school nurse just after the first bell rang at school to tell you that your kid just threw up. Great! I was ready to jump in the car dressed and in control of the situation. For those of you who just can’t get up in the morning, all it takes is forcing yourself up. Once up, nothing feels better! I promise! Do it on a consistent basis, and Viola! You are a new woman!!
#3 Get your kids to nap. Babies, another story, another blog post. But for 1, 2 and 3 yrs. old, you can get them to do this. Train your kids to go down for naps after lunch. You can lay down on the couch as well and take a power nap. This will get you through to bedtime. There is nothing like power naps! If you just can’t do it, lie there and rest. Problem today: Most Moms’ are out shopping or doing errands during lunchtime. Try and do this before or after lunchtime so that you are home and can make this critical thing happen for all of you. I am not saying you can’t go to lunch or to the park for lunch with your kid’s, just not everyday! Being flexible is extremely important, but creating rituals is also key.
(her is here blog if you would like to see more: http://blog.thefoodnanny.org/ )
I loved what she said and I FELT that I NEEDED to listen. I felt in my heart, “You can do this Wendi! You can learn to go to bed early. You NEED sleep in order to FIND HAPPINESS!” I just didn’t know how.
Then my late night happened. But not before I saw myyellowsandbox.blogspot.com‘s post. She posted this great quote from Sister Hinckley.